Your 1st Step to Becoming a Work-at-Home Mom
So what exactly is a work-at-home mom (WAHM)? To me, being a WAHM means freedom. Freedom to be the kind of mother I want to be. Yes, I am always there for every milestone, class party and illness. But I am also building the career of my dreams. I don't want to make it sound easy, because it's not. In fact, I'm writing this post at 5am after getting up with the baby twice last night. But the thing is, I'm here. I'm sitting in my kitchen instead of rushing to get myself and the kids ready and out the door. I'm up at 5, because I choose to be, not because I have to arrive at work by a certain time. I don't have to pack the daycare bags or weather the storm of the daycare goodbye. And yes, while it is work to build a new career from home, it is joyful work. I love having complete control over my schedule. If I am feeling stressed or overwhelmed, I simply change the schedule and try again.
It took years to get to this place, and while I wouldn’t change a thing, it certainly would have been nice to get here a little sooner. When I decided I wanted to work from home, I was on maternity leave with our first baby (turning 4 this week). I felt so desperate to be home with her that I dove into any work-at-home job I could find without being truly strategic and making a sustainable plan.
The first step I forgot that most of us soon-to-be WAHMs forget is this – Decide exactly what you want. Simple? Of course. Life-changing? Absolutely.
I was so focused on what I didn’t want that I didn’t allow myself to dream about what I wanted to create. I knew I didn’t want to be a nurse anymore. I knew I didn’t want to go back to a fulltime job, while Baby C went to daycare. I knew I didn’t want to miss her first steps or first words because I was at a job that I dreaded.
Now I focus on what I do want. Our words have power, and it feels A LOT better to focus on the beautiful future you’re building, rather than the past you’re trying to escape.
So let yourself start dreaming, and no idea is too ‘out there.’ Deciding exactly what you want is scary. What if it doesn’t happen? But what if it does?
Action Step: when you have a little time alone, sit down and ask yourself, “If I were not limited, what would I do?”
Give yourself time. The answer probably won’t come right away. Allow yourself to sit with it, let it marinate. Know that the answer may come that day or that week or that month, but it WILL come if you’re listening to your intuition. Once you have a vision of what you want, right down exactly why you want it and be as specific as possible.
For example, instead of “I want to work from home, because I want more time with my kids” it’s a lot more powerful to say, “I want to be a freelance writer, so that I can walk my kids to school every morning, get my work done, then be fully present to them when I pick them up from school.”
Feel the difference? When I say that I can picture myself walking to school on a sunny day with the baby in the stroller, and it feels amazing. So what would you do if you were not limited? If you’re feeling brave, post it in the comments below :) I can’t wait to read your dreams and support each other!